FRIENDS

Hahaha wow it's been forever since I've written something, but now I'm back and better than before!!

I've been thinking a lot about a certain topic and I've been wanting to share it for some time. Friends. We all have them and we all are one. But what does it really mean to be a "friend"? Well, I looked it up on safari and this is what came up: "a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection." But I think it goes deeper than that. I think friends play a bigger role.

Friends are our chosen family. Like wow that's a pretty big deal.

I have a lot of people that I would consider my friends, but there are very few people that I would include as a "best friend". And yes, you can have more than one best friend.

Well, you're probably wondering why I'm writing about friends. I've learned some lessons lately and they keep coming to mind, so I wanted to share them. And this wouldn't be one of my posts if I didn't include moving would it hahaha ;). Moving really brought out who my real friends were. Who my "best friends" were. And to be honest, it was kind of surprising. I didn't think that the people who stayed in contact with me and talked to me would actually be the ones to do so. I thought a lot more people would be there for me, but sadly they weren't.

Being a good friend has meant a lot more to me than it ever has before. When I literally had no friends in Georgia, it was a bit lonely. Going from knowing everybody in school to not even knowing your next door neighbors is kinda scary. It's a big change and I had to rely solely on my old friends from Utah. One call or even a single text could change a hard day to a happy one instantly. Just knowing I was being thought of changed a lot of things. And this brings me to texting.

I have a love hate relationship with texting. We all went through those middle school days when our crush would text us and we would instantly light up when we saw their contact name. We all remember getting excited when they sent a wink face or even a heart lol. But as we've gotten older I feel like we don't text as much. It's gotten kind of old. We can drive now, so we'd rather see each other in person than text.

I love to talk with my best friends, but I sometimes have a hard time texting back or remembering to reply. I'm a lot more busy than I was four years ago when I had my blue iPod haha. But at the same time, I feel so bad when I realize I haven't texted one of my girlfriends back. It's like I don't mean to be mean, but I genuinely forgot to text back. We've alllll beeennn heerreee!!!

Sooooo what I'm trying to get at is, yes sometimes we all need a little encouraging text that says, "I love you", or "I miss you", but a real friend doesn't need constant up- keeping. You would be surprised at how many people I've seen since I've been visiting Utah that I just picked right up with like nothings changed. We could not have seen each other for months, but the minute we see each other, we have so many things to talk about and we can laugh our heads off like we've missed nothing. I LOVE YOU IF YOU ARE LIKE THIS!!!!

I think that's an amazing quality that a friend can posses. To just know that yeah hey maybe they have a lot going on right now and they actually can't hang out, instead of getting all offended that they can't do something. I get so sad when I hear about "ex-best friends" or "oh we used to be friends" because usually it's all a bunch of miss communication. 99% of the time someone just took something the wrong way and got offended or jealous without really knowing the full story.

Also, another thing to keep in mind: friends can have other friends!!! It's totally okay and, in fact, normal for your friends to have other friends. So we should stop feeling sad when your close friend wants to hang out with someone else.

This is high school you guys. We have so much to look forward to. These are supposed to be the funnest years of our lives. We are allowed to be carefree and are almost expected to be. We shouldn't take our friends for granted. These people are the ones you will be up at 2 AM calling after a mental breakdown. They are the people that bring you jamba after a rough day at work. They are the ones that will be right next to you as you sit with 2,000 other classmates after 4 years of high school waiting restlessly to walk up and receive that long awaited diploma. These people are so much more than important.

Don't ever forget how worth while your friends are. They are amazing. And it sucks when I'm scrolling through Twitter or any social media and I see posts about how "my friends suck", or "I have no real friends" because chances are you really do have friends that care about you, you just don't realize it. So let's realize it.

Most people have good intentions, so let's try to recognize them. Forgive and forget. Don't loose someone just because of some silly miss communication.

Be a friend you would be proud to have.

ps: summer is almost over so go do sum wild hood rat shiz

XOXO